6 weeks (dr recommendation)

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Yes it did

heh... kind of weird that this is my first comment (I think) and it's on this topic! hehe

We waited about 8 weeks before trying... and the first time ended halfway through (or 'in'. HA!) It DID hurt, much like the first time EVER. I had to stop because of it. I think it was partly because I was nervous about it hurting so I was tense, then I was more tense about being tense... vicious cycle!

So we waited a couple weeks and tried again, this time with success! Still a little tough at first, but each time gets easier and more enjoyable now :) (I was just thankful everything still 'works', if you know what I mean! hehe)

1. Nine weeks.
2. Not exactly, but it was uncomfortable. I'd had a very small tear and the location of the stitches was... not stretchy for the first few times. But it didn't outright hurt.

What about the fear of the "most fertile time"? When does that window close? That's what I'm more scared of...

so we know what's on ur mind now ...he he he he...

My daughter will be 3 YEARS OLD next week. So probably 7 months prior to that. (she was 8 weeks early)

I'm guessing it will hurt - alot.

We waited 9 weeks with our first and it did not hurt. We waited 6 weeks with the other babies. NO PROBLEMS!!

First time was exactly 6 weeks postpartum (2 weeks ago). Nope, didn't hurt; but I was as nervous as if it were the first time again. Since then, no problems at all.

ahem... 3weeks. no pain but a lot of fear that there would be after 17 hours and a killer episiotomy. Oh, and I waited until I got my period (breastfeeding) to go back on the pill. 8 months later it still hadn't started up again. OOPPS- 'cuz I was pregnant again. Beware.

I think this is my first comment too!

We waited the standard 6 weeks. I had a 3rd degree tear so I wasn't going there until my midwife said all was healed nicely. It did hurt but the discomfort went away after a little stretching. Sometimes there is still a little discomfort but I had a killer tear, a ton of stitches, and a lot of healing to do. Good luck!

6 weeks and it didn't hurt but I'd had a c-section so was more worried about my scar than other bits!

I recall reading a popular mommyblog that got 100+ responses. They ranged from 3 weeks to "what's sex?"

The average was something like 4 months.

I also recall that there was a heated discussion of "wanting to have sex with your partner because you actually feel desirous" and "obligatory - not obligatorrie - sex."

oh and hand jobs and blow jobs and blah blah blah

i can't remember if it hurt so much but how LONG it took my husband to forget what he saw in the delivery room to WANT to have sex with me again. i guess i can't blame him ...

I think it was at least two months for my husband to get ansty with our second. I must've caved sometime after that, even though I was super depressed and anxious and not at all wanting it. All this after at my 6 week appointment, my doctor asks me if we've done it yet and comments how some people don't "make it the 6 weeks". All I could think was "who the hell are these people??"

I don't remember it hurting, maybe a little uncomfortable, due to tearing during delivery.

I say, if you feel like it and you feel fine "down there", go for it!

Um... 3 weeks to the day and we wanted to sooner but were nervous. I had a c-section & there was no pain for me just a little tender.

six weeks, I wanted midwife okay first...
The actual sex did not hurt, but it did feel different. Then when I asked my husband how it was for him, he said and I quote "it was kinda like tossing a hotdog down a hallway". OUCH! That is what hurt.
File that for Husbands, under what not to say to your wife EVER.

With each of our four kids, I think we waited anywhere between 5-7 weeks.

And, no, it didn't hurt me at all.
*rimshot*

And it didn't hurt her either.

Keely! That's AWFUL!

I hope he knows that he was in the wrong with that one!!!!

I waited 4 months and it did hurt the first few times.

What helped most was to have LOTS of lube on hand and a couple of cosmopolitans beforehand. Seriously!

My OB-GYN actually suggested drinking alcohol prior to having sex to relax me. It relaxed me, and dulled some of the pain.

With the first.... after the 6 week appt... I needed the depo shot since I'm allergic to latex.

We tried to make it a little fun.... a bit of wine and a bottle of lube.... it didn't hurt at all but I was very tentative at first.

It definitely felt "different" to be back in the saddle but the feelings got back to normal after a while.... kegels help... and the first time you make a move and realize you are still acting like you're moving around your big old belly.... that's worth a laugh.

And, since no one else has told you, I'll be brutally honest and say it.... breastfeeding makes you, ehem, dry.... so go ahead and buy the big bottle of astroglide.

6 weeks, and yes it hurt (I'd had 36 internal and external stitches) It felt like the first time I'd ever had sex and I bled. :(

We waited for the OK..GO from the OB as well. Even though I had a C-section, it was still uncomfortable and a little dry. So I agree with Homestead. Invest in some good lube and go for it (when you're ready)!

Right about 6 weeks, and I had no problems. For whatever reason, though, when I came home, my mother (I was 17 and still lived with her) said I didn't act like I'd just had a baby. My first day home, I can remember her asking me if it didn't hurt to sit that way (Indian style). It didn't. *shrugs*

Be careful. I cannot tell you how many people I know that got pregnant, while breast-feeding, the first time they had sex after baby.

months and months and months. and months. we had a c-section though. while it didn't hurt, i just didn't want to. how is that for cheerful??

Bryna - You meant that for Londak, right? We only waited 3 weeks because we both couldn't wait. Between having a c-section and having a very gentle, loving husband it was wonderful. No pain. We're enjoying being active, happy new parents and I healed perfectly. I feel lucky. :)

Hmm.

First baby, 6 weeks.

Second baby, 5 weeks.

Third, 4 weeks.

She is eight months old now and I'm not preggers so it was a good thing! I'd say it was a bit uncomfortable but nothing too bad.

Yeah Keely... I had a hard time realizing the name for the comment is on the bottom... oops!

6 weeks, Doctor recommended after 4th degree laceration. SO. Same Doctor also wisely advised me to suck down at least one glass of wine, take a deep breath and "just get through the first time", post delivery because it just plain wasn't going to be *good*. She was right. And.....this might be TMI....My breasts leaked during the act. Just be prepared.

Major TMI Alert.
waited At least 6 weeks. Didn't have any tears with birth.

Not to scare you, but even with no tears something happened to me during birth and ended up with nerve damage and sex was like the most painful thing ever. Managed somehow to get preggo again 1 year later. Whatever damage happened with 1st one somehow got undone and now things are sort of normal again. Pain in sex sucks. Good luck.

About two months with a bottle of wine and, ahem, lube. Yes, it hurt and there was even a little spotting.

And I have the same thing as DDM, like leaky.

We waited 7 weeks after our first child and 5 after our second. It didn't hurt either time. I didn't have any stitches or tearing though and that probably makes a difference.