I feel ya sistah. Stuck on the second floor of my apt in LA, which is loaded with people who are usually loaded, in both senses of the word, recuperating from my surgery, I'm amazed at how many people just let me dangle. Mainly old friends. The new ones have been a lot kinder.

I talk to everyone too and am constantly worried that they might disperse when they see me and whisper "Why won't she SHUT UP already?"

Moved to the bay area suburbs over two years ago after living in San Francisco for seven years. I don't regret the move at all - I love my new community, I just wish I knew more people in it.
I visit all my city friends all the time, but only a couple have come out to see me. It would feel more like home if I could find a couple of local friends that I can call at a moment's notice to hang out with. Well, someone that's not my sister or my roommate.

get thee to a Starbucks, or a whatever it is that people hang out at. Or you can just wait till WIlla goes to preschool & you can pick & choose friends amongst the evil mommies ;-)

wish you lived in my suburb. i have always felt the lack of interaction in any burb is the true drawback. people are so very different in urban areas. hang in there and see if there is a mom group in your area. it is totally hit or miss with other moms but i have found one woman who i really like and respect through a mom group. some are just too much though.

Honestly my internet friends are just as interesting and entertaining as my real friends. I will be your friend Torrie. :)

Me! I'll be your friend!

I seem to be very enthusiastic about this friend thing. Don't mind me.

First of all, I've got to say, love your writting style, so cool. I can so relate to your sense of lonelyness, I felt the same after I moved (only 20 minutes away from my old place) and no one came to visit for ages. It seems there is a KM limit beyond which friends (even the good ones) seem to stop wanting to see you...So for a while I did the distance as if I never moved away, and would drop by 'like before' for a coffee..till I realized this was ridiculous, (after all they promised they'd come?) and I thought I might just talk to my neighbours, my dog, and get a couple of gold fishes too...As for my old friends: we skype!? isn't the world insane??

Honestly I think some of my internet friends are MORE interesting that my real life friends. But I've lived in the suburbs forever.

My biggest problem is finding friends MY OWN age. Around here, I'm the youngest mom usually and it's rare I find anyone who is close to my age.

Good luck, I'm really, not shy, but I have a hard time with small talk. People usually have to approach me.

It's funny how people always envision suburbia as this utopia of friendliness, while the city is this big bad urban place where no one looks you in the eye. I find it such the opposite...in the 'burbs, people lock themselves in their houses, drive everywhere, and use the U-scan at the grocery store. The lack of human contact can be ridiculous, whereas in the city you are FORCED to interact on a certain level. I feel for you. I find your blog to be a sort of glimpse into my future, too - husband is a 3rd year medical student, I moved cross country for him, and I don't even want to think about internship/residency/fellowship/relocation/baby times.....GOOD LORD.

I had the same thing happen when I transfered to a different university in the same town I was currently in. I did not move until a year or two later, but none of the friends I had at the first school even called me to hang out anymore. It's kind of sad how people find reasons to separate them selves from each other.

I know how you feel. We're in a new neighborhood full of new houses and I feel like it's high school too! I'm sure that's not the case, but with me being shy to begin with, I find it hard to just go up and talk to someone. I do say HI when I go past with the kids, though.

So hang in there and maybe call up one or two of those friends who haven't called you.

Hey - re: your twitter -
how about "Dear Mr. President" by Pink??
I love that song. And it's totally acoustic.

re: this blog. I feel you.
I moved away from "home" 11 years ago, been in RI for 9 of those, and it's SO HARD to make new friends as an adult. Sucks. But I have my 8 pets whom I love more than most people anyway, so with that, DH, Tivo and the interwebs, I keep pretty 'occupied'. Still, I miss hanging with a girlfriend or two. : /

I will be up there as soon as I get my head out of my ass. I swear. Em and you and me and Willa and a great big playdate.

Watch out tho, we may never leave.

(I drove through Westchester on my way up to Boston last night. It looks LOVELY. Perhaps we'll be neighbors someday. heh)

I felt the same way when I moved to the suburbs. Do you live in Bergen County, NJ? If you do I have really fun playgroups that I joined that have some many great activities for the kids. I met the most amazing friends through my groups. If you don't live in NJ-then just go to meetup.com and they have tons of playgroups to join. Email me if you live in Bergen County by chance.

I feel your pain. My husband and I moved from Atlanta to Kansas City 6 weeks ago for his job. 4 weeks ago we had a baby. We know hardly anyone here and it's so isolating. I end up chatting with anyone these days...

Torrie,
I've been reading you for 2 weeks now. I'm addicted to your blog! I read you from your post #1 in this website. I even tried reading your first blog at blogger but for some reason it didn't work. I just wanted to drop a line and say hi and I miss your posts. I hope everything is going good in your life.

Hugs!

I don't know if this will make you feel better or worse, but I've moved around quite a bit and it usually takes me about a year in a new place to get an established circle of friends and places to go. I know right now that seems like forever, but it'll go by fast, I swear!

Hang in there! You will meet people, just takes a little time. If you moved out of NYC, I'm guessing there's a possibility you moved to Connecticut, and it just takes a long time for folks here to open up! Trust me, I know. I moved here 8 years ago, and I'm still trying to meet some neighbors 2 houses away! I am known, however, as the "person you can't NOT be friends with" so that's something, I guess.

I'll be your friend!