hey torrie, that is soooo true. why is it that when youre good, all this shit happens and when you look around and see people committing all this bad stuff (in my area, it's welfare fraud) and living the high life, it makes you wanna just chuck in the towel and say to hell with being good. i know how you feel, but unfortunately, with young kids who look up to their parents, we have an obligation to them (if not ourselves) to do the right thing, so they can have some good values. youre so right though.....cheers

Couldn't you just commit a bunch of petty crimes? Steal from a dollar store. Say "bingo" when your score card's still empty.

Ut Oh. Don't let others get you down!! Fuck the Universe but if it's people messin' with your pretty little head....FUCK THEM. Hard times always make your a better person. Although rolling with the punches sucks ass just give an old man a swift kick in the nuts, he don't need 'em! Plus it will make you feel betta.

YEAH! Fuck some shit up!

Bad shit happens to good people all the time, everywhere. You certainly aren't alone in that. In general, I've found over the past two years (when my husband got cancer, my son got injured in the Army, my daughter had back surgery and my dad is fading from terminal cancer) that its essential to enjoy the very small things in life. I sit out in the garden and watch the birds drink nectar from the flowers. I walk on the beach, see friends, go to the museum, cook a good meal for the family. That kind of stuff I have control of. The bad shit; you have very little control.

Take advantage of those things you can control and let them make you happy. Its also important for Willa; she deserves to be raised by a positive, smiling mom.

sorry shari- I disagree. It's more important for Willa to be raised by a mum who explains that sometimes the world sucks and you feel bad, and that is normal. That shit just happens sometimes and you want to let off steam, and be as negative as you like.

That's how I plan to raise my boy- a real mum, not some smiling, idiotic Stepford Wife.

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time, Torrie. I still think you're a top chick.

I think both Shari's and jen's comments are interesting. I think it's possible to be both positive and smiling when you can and also very realistic and acknowledging of the fact that the world is sometimes very crappy. Sitting watching some birds and being happy doesn't mean you have to pretend that life is perfect, and being realistic and sometimes very negative doesn't mean you can't also look for good positive things too.