I hope this doesn't sound like mumbo-jumbo or anything, but I want to share something I ask myself when I am overwhelmed, dealing with PPD, having severe anxiety attacks, etc:
What am I doing to help the situation?
Meaning, I can't change what happens to me, I can only change how I let it affect me. Asking myself that question in NO WAY magically fixes things, but it has made me realize that I needed to talk with someone to deal with my emotions, take meds for PPD and anxiety (which I know is not for everyone, but I do think talking to someone can help anyone)...the therapist I saw even did phone sessions anytime I couldn't find someone to watch my daughter, which was most of the time.
I know there are no easy answers. I know having a small child this age can be hell on our state of mind. I know that constantly taking care of others' needs while putting off your own is exhausting, to say the least. I really hope you can find some peace.
It's been so long since I've been here - I'm fairly certain you have more cats now. Willa is gorgeous.
When i look around my house and one child is crying and the other child is whinging and its way past both their bedtimes and the house is filthy and the grocery shopping hasn't been done and I have uni homework and no money I tend to shed a few tears and think everything is hopeless.
Then I remember that I've been here before and things got better and just because they are bad again doesn't mean they wont get better this time too. This too will pass.
Props to you for doing such an amazing job, even if you can't see how fantastically you are managing right now. Motherguilt (and, I imagine, wifeguilt) is a bitch. Remember that sometimes it's ok to lock yourself in the bathroom and cry if that's what it takes.
I was just thinking about you and Willa so I thought I would check in and see how you are doing. :)
Also, I wanted to tell you that I think you are amazing and I admire you. You're one of the mom's I aspire to be like. I wrote a post today that was difficult for me to share and what struck me is that we mothers, women, people, need to tell our stories and show eachother that it is ok to be sad and imperfect. Hugs to you!
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So sorry to hear this...Anything I can do to help?
Posted by: Dani | March 12, 2009 10:41 AM
I hope this doesn't sound like mumbo-jumbo or anything, but I want to share something I ask myself when I am overwhelmed, dealing with PPD, having severe anxiety attacks, etc:
What am I doing to help the situation?
Meaning, I can't change what happens to me, I can only change how I let it affect me. Asking myself that question in NO WAY magically fixes things, but it has made me realize that I needed to talk with someone to deal with my emotions, take meds for PPD and anxiety (which I know is not for everyone, but I do think talking to someone can help anyone)...the therapist I saw even did phone sessions anytime I couldn't find someone to watch my daughter, which was most of the time.
I know there are no easy answers. I know having a small child this age can be hell on our state of mind. I know that constantly taking care of others' needs while putting off your own is exhausting, to say the least. I really hope you can find some peace.
Posted by: Pascha | March 12, 2009 02:44 PM
It's been so long since I've been here - I'm fairly certain you have more cats now. Willa is gorgeous.
When i look around my house and one child is crying and the other child is whinging and its way past both their bedtimes and the house is filthy and the grocery shopping hasn't been done and I have uni homework and no money I tend to shed a few tears and think everything is hopeless.
Then I remember that I've been here before and things got better and just because they are bad again doesn't mean they wont get better this time too. This too will pass.
Props to you for doing such an amazing job, even if you can't see how fantastically you are managing right now. Motherguilt (and, I imagine, wifeguilt) is a bitch. Remember that sometimes it's ok to lock yourself in the bathroom and cry if that's what it takes.
Posted by: Shannon | March 16, 2009 01:28 AM
I was just thinking about you and Willa so I thought I would check in and see how you are doing. :)
Also, I wanted to tell you that I think you are amazing and I admire you. You're one of the mom's I aspire to be like. I wrote a post today that was difficult for me to share and what struck me is that we mothers, women, people, need to tell our stories and show eachother that it is ok to be sad and imperfect. Hugs to you!
Posted by: Keely | March 26, 2009 03:03 AM
you doing ok? :) hugs!
Posted by: Jaymie | April 3, 2009 09:25 PM